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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Mich » Mon Oct 07, 2013 6:17 pm

I hope you had some antihistamines! How did the interview go??
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Gravity Defier » Mon Oct 07, 2013 10:11 pm

Good luck with part 2, Mich. Try not to turn into a giant hive.
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Mich » Mon Oct 07, 2013 11:18 pm

Try not to turn into a giant hive.
I have turned into a giant hive.

Literally 80% of my body is a red spot.
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Postby elfprince13 » Mon Oct 07, 2013 11:28 pm

Maybe you're turning into...wait for it....the Hive Queen King!
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby buckshot » Sat Oct 12, 2013 1:21 am

We went to one of the stupid charity event things tonight what a waste of a night. I loathe the everpresent herd of gladhanding gooffs making me shake their clammy soft hands, and the insisting that I behave look Julie's always giving me. I hate the lie of it all and don't want to know any of these skid lids. But I think I can take anybody here "if all hell breaks open" and my wife looks damn fine in her get up , it could be worse.

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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Gravity Defier » Fri Oct 18, 2013 7:28 pm

Bob,

I received an email Wednesday from UIUC saying my application is complete and now up for review from the admissions committee. Really, it's been complete for a month but whatever, they have a high volume of applications I'm sure. More importantly, they said we'll be notified of acceptance/denial between mid-late November. Having to wait is so hard and I feel like there are so many things I can't really start in case I do get in, lest I end up with more half-finished projects.

Speaking of half-finished projects, I suppose I could/should be working on my comic which is due in less than 3 weeks and is only one page partially done (but planned out for at least 6 pages). It's definitely more of a challenge than I was anticipating.
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Luet » Mon Oct 21, 2013 10:21 am

I'm so excited for you, btw. I keep forgetting to post! You are one busy girl! :)
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Postby Gravity Defier » Mon Oct 21, 2013 4:00 pm

Thanks, Nomi. :) I am busy, indeed. A little overwhelmed by it, to be honest, but it seems like good things will come of it so I can't complain. Too much...
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Luet » Sun Oct 27, 2013 9:17 pm

bob,

My grandmother passed away today. She was my last living grandparent. She had come to live with my mom a few weeks ago and went into hospice care. She was 89 years old. She was mostly unconscious the last few days. My mom and I were holding her hands when she died. It was the first time I've ever watched someone die.
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Petra456 » Sun Oct 27, 2013 9:20 pm

*hugs*
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby buckshot » Mon Oct 28, 2013 9:52 am

Sorry Luet! Nothing on earth as wonderfull as a grandmother, sorry she's gone, wish you the best as you get through this.

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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Young Val » Mon Oct 28, 2013 11:18 am

::Hugs:: I'm so sorry for your loss, Nomi.
you snooze, you lose
well I have snozzed and lost
I'm pushing through
I'll disregard the cost
I hear the bells
so fascinating and
I'll slug it out
I'm sick of waiting
and I can
hear the bells are
ringing joyful and triumphant

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Postby elfprince13 » Mon Oct 28, 2013 11:21 am

:( Sorry you're going through that!
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby starlooker » Mon Oct 28, 2013 11:47 am

*hugs*

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you.
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Luet » Mon Oct 28, 2013 5:38 pm

Thanks guys, I appreciate it. I'm really doing okay, not sure if it hasn't sunk in yet. My mom is a mess, so I'm trying to be there for her. Today, I helped her write up the obituary and make up a program for the memorial service on Saturday.
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Petra456 » Tue Oct 29, 2013 3:24 pm

Bob,

I hate that I don't get to see Ender's Game the night it comes out. I'm really excited we're going to the real IMAX up in Seattle, but that's not going to happen until at least the 5th. I feel like pouting and it's ridiculous!

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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Rei » Wed Oct 30, 2013 5:39 pm

*Belated hugs for Nomi*

I am glad that, even if it hasn't yet sunk in, you are able to support your mum.
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Postby Luet » Wed Oct 30, 2013 6:14 pm

Thanks Rei *hugs*
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Boothby » Wed Oct 30, 2013 7:44 pm

So sorry for your & your mom's loss.

At least your grandmother passed away knowing she was loved.

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Postby buckshot » Tue Nov 26, 2013 11:03 am

Yeah Hooray it's pie season today! well ok , more so than usual : :bow:

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Postby Gravity Defier » Tue Dec 03, 2013 12:29 pm

Bob,

I figured I'd move to here for less heart-breaking talk. I was invited to interview for a FT position; I was hoping it would be today, since today is the only time I wouldn't have to do some pretty insane schedule juggling to make it to the interview but alas, my seeing the email an hour after it was sent meant I didn't get my first choice time. It's now officially scheduled for Friday. This is good news. Potentially great news, even. My drop in pay when my old manager left really hurt me financially this year and it was/is making me bitter about needing a Masters to even be considered for full time work around here. I knew/know that if I could get a few interviews, I could prove I'm so much more than A Lack of Degree. So, I'm nervous about Friday and all that not getting this job would mean but I'm a little hopeful, too, and that is nice.

Not really meaning to complain here but I am a little bummed I didn't get an invite to interview at another, closer library. Mainly because it's still in my area (Youth, as opposed to Adult, Services) and is two miles down the road, meaning I could bypass public transportation altogether, saving me time and money and a dependency on an unreliable method of transporting myself.

But beggars can't be choosers and honestly, I can see myself being very happy in the position I'm interviewing for if I am lucky enough to get hired for it. Just a little nervous I'll like it more than what I do now and won't want to go back to Youth at some point. Which, again, isn't a bad thing per se. The only thing that I really don't like about the prospect of working at this library is that it is in a heavily Spanish speaking area and while it's not required their new hire speak it, I think they assume I do despite me not mentioning it on my cover letter or resume and the idea of facing people who do...there's a lot of disappointment and anger from some Hispanics when others don't speak it well or at all. At least, that's been my experience. "Why don't you?" is asked a lot, usually with a lot of head-shaking and deep sighing, as if I shunned the language growing up. It sucks. And very few people understand the amount of terror I feel when I know I'm expected to speak the language and why I go out of my way to avoid being in situations where that might be the expectation.

Anyway. That's my long, rambling, I don't know what the hell I'm doing employment-wise but I can't keep doing what I'm doing at the pay I'm getting spiel.
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Luet » Tue Dec 03, 2013 1:57 pm

I really hope it goes well!
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Postby Gravity Defier » Wed Dec 11, 2013 10:35 pm

Welp, got the rejection email today. That was exciting.

Also got a feeler from a different library I applied to at the same time, that I might have mentioned in the above post, but they were inquiring as to where I am in terms of my degree and when I'll be finished. I had to answer honestly but I tried to couch it in fluffy enough platitudes that I'll hopefully hear back with an invitation to interview. I'm not optimistic.

f*** needing degrees for work I've been successfully doing without one.
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Postby buckshot » Thu Dec 12, 2013 11:56 am

That sucks GD! Practical experience means more to me although Its always the whole package in smallish buisness but I bet it's different in Gov type jobs.

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Postby Gravity Defier » Thu Dec 12, 2013 10:40 pm

I think what stung the most was that I was told I was passed over for the position only because they were unsure of whether or not I was really ready/able/willing to stop working with children. I get that they have to think long term and consider that I might leave if an opportunity to work with kids arose but I applied and accepted the interview because I knew I was able and willing, and as ready as I could be, to work with a different age group. It wasn't anything new or unwelcome to me, as my AZ position was primarily with adults despite being the Youth person and I was led to believe that this library operates as such that everyone takes turns in other departments anyway, so I didn't feel like I had to further announce I loved the opportunity it would have provided me. If they were really concerned by this, they should have offered the job and let me decide or at least talked it over with me, as I have had another employer do when they were unsure on something but wanted me to work for them (that being my former manager calling to make sure I was willing to make the move to Chicago).

Just. Blegh.
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby Luet » Fri Dec 13, 2013 11:28 am

I'm really sorry, Alea. That sucks hard. :(
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Postby buckshot » Mon Dec 16, 2013 5:04 pm

I'll be happy no matter what for a while, I flew home a new toy yesterday! Ok an old toy and it fits me in size and style. At least thats what I've been hearing and I think we are gonna get along just fine. I even think the lady likes it but she wont get in it yet. :angel:

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Postby buckshot » Tue Dec 24, 2013 12:52 am

Merry Christmas to everyone! Be safe and extra special good wishes twoards those not having the best of luck this year I wish ya'll the best!

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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby powerfulcheese04 » Sun Jan 05, 2014 6:56 pm

Dear Bob,

The thought of starting to feed Lizzy solid foods fills me with unreasonable anxiety. Breastfeeding has been so easy for me. Even with pumping at work (I also have an insane amount of drosen milk in my freezer. Probably close to 300oz.) Solids seem so challenging!

Do i make or buy? What do I start with? How long does it need to be super pureed? How do I know when to get thicker? How adventurous should I be with flavors? Does feeding not-bland baby food really lead to less picky toddlers? How do I know when to wean down breast feeds? (On that note, how do I do that without mastitis?)

I'm so freaked out!
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Postby starlooker » Sun Jan 05, 2014 10:50 pm

*big hugs*

It's going to be okay. I promise. If you want actual experiential stuff, happy to provide. (We did baby led weaning, mixed with some baby food/cereal.) Right now it's all about letting her explore and play with foods. But regardless of what approach you take, it'll be fine in the end. Atty's first solids was the single hardest milestone for me. Moving from exclusively breastfeeding to food from other sources was unexpectedly emotional, partially the symbolism and partially the overwhelming, "How's this going to work?"

It did work, though. It will for you guys, too.

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Postby Young Val » Mon Jan 06, 2014 9:25 am

I can't believe she's old enough to start solids, Kim! Time flies.
you snooze, you lose
well I have snozzed and lost
I'm pushing through
I'll disregard the cost
I hear the bells
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I'm sick of waiting
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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby steph » Mon Jan 06, 2014 3:35 pm

Babies growing up is so hard!

Like Kirsten, I have used baby-led weaning, although it wasn't a "thing" when I started it back with Tyler. He just would not eat baby food and wanted our food. I don't actually "follow" a method, I just feed our babies real food from the beginning. I can tell you more about our experiences, if you're interested.

You're actually moving into the feeding thing at the best time in recent history!! The American Pediatric Association has recently done away with allergy guidelines, so you don't have to worry about peanut butter, egg whites or any thing else when deciding what to try with Lizzy! (Just honey, because of botulism.)

And my opinion on weaning? Breast milk is still the primary nutrition for babies. All other food is for recreation, developing tastes, trying new experiences, and filling their tummy only if the want to. I don't do ANY sort of weaning until after a year.

My best advice is to not worry about it, because there isn't really a "wrong" way to do it. :)
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Postby Confessions » Mon Jan 06, 2014 8:07 pm

I'm currently visiting a depressed relative, and I got into a 2 hour conversation with him telling me how much I hate him and how much everyone else hates him, and I felt so bad that I started crying and left the room. I know I handled that badly, and now I'm super worried that I made him feel worse. What do I do?
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Postby buckshot » Mon Jan 06, 2014 10:27 pm

Confessions, It takes a lot of crust to buck up and say ya did wrong . I hope your relative appreciates the gesture an meets ya in the middle. Good luck!

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Re: Dear Diary/Journal/Bob 3.0

Postby starlooker » Tue Jan 07, 2014 3:19 pm

*hugs hugs hugs*

Depression is a nasty, nasty illness. It can twist things around in such a way that a person hears what the depression wants them to hear. It is a difficult thing to deal with. It is an incredibly difficult thing for even trained professionals to deal with. Give yourself some slack for being emotional in what sounds like a difficult and emotional situation.

Also, I hope you can accept that you cannot "make" your relative believe what you tell him about how you feel about him. It isn't your responsibility to do that, either. You can tell him what you honestly feel. You can ask how you can be supportive and you can offer those supports that are within your willingness and means. However, you cannot prove to someone who thinks you/everyone hates them that this is not the truth, it is really not your job to do so, and it is okay to not want to get into another discussion about that. You can offer honesty about what happened -- that you were overwhelmed and didn't know what to do -- and an apology if you believe it's called for. It's okay not to rehash the whole thing if you are not up to that. I also imagine it's probably important for you, for your mental health, to not take on more of his feelings than is honestly your responsibility.

I hope this is helpful and am truly wishing you all the best in what sounds like a really difficult situation.
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