Philotic Web

note, not in direct response to Alea's thing, but the sort of thing I'd find interesting and post here or in the guy thread anyway. and it'd take more effort to find the guy thread than use the thread already at the top of the page.

socio-cultural differences that split along gender lines are probably all chemicals anyway:

Stephenson quotes Jody Radtke, program director for the Women’s Wilderness Institute in Boulder, CO, as saying that women aren’t necessarily more risk-adverse than men. However, she says, when faced with challenging situations, men tend to produce adrenaline, which makes them pump up and, as Stephenson puts it, “run around hollering like frat boys at a kegger.” But women, when faced with a similar situation, produce something called acetycholine. Which basically … makes them want to throw up. Consequently, because women don’t have the same chemical reward for confronting risky situations, they tend to rely on more calculated, cross-cranial decision-making before leaping into a risky endeavor.

http://www.nomapnoguidenolimits.com/200 ... y-to-risk/

Which is why women should be in charge of the world

No, but really, I find it really hard to take those sorts of studies seriously. Next, a set of studies will come along showing that the chemical response is socio-culturally induced, and we'll continue spiraling between this false nature-nurture dichotomy.

Which is why women should be in charge of the world

No, but really, I find it really hard to take those sorts of studies seriously. Next, a set of studies will come along showing that the chemical response is socio-culturally induced, and we'll continue spiraling between this false nature-nurture dichotomy.

Yeah!

In listening to that song Kelly linked to yesterday for about the twentieth time, I'm getting frustrated with myself and my ability/tendency to somehow see/hear/find him in what feels like every facet of my life, and I'm wondering just what it's going to take for me to say "Enough already" and mean it.

I've been given all sorts of advice and I've even thought of some of it before it was given: go ask some guy out, quit talking to him, find things to keep busy, quit reading into things, quit making excuses for him/you...

I've been discouraged by behavior and responses, unfortunately I've also been encouraged by behavior and responses.

I've tried separating friend from crush and demolishing the latter with a steady stream of FOB and proof, if you will, that shows why it's obvious to everyone but my emotional self -heart sounds cheesy but my logical brain even thinks it's obvious- that I'm wasting my time because he is not and cannot be interested in me in that way, with no success really, and so I've also tried and failed at staying away altogether. This is followed by me telling myself there will be hell to pay for this at some point and I'm not getting off scot-free, despite appearances and I react one of two ways at that point: 1) say what the hell, I may as well live it up and indulge myself if it's all the same or 2) try to reign myself in to minimize the damage.

I'm not sure if it's apathy, flattery, amusement, or pent-up annoyance with a huge helping of decency thrown in that keeps him from yelling at me to deal with it all and shut the hell up already but whatever it is, it's both kind and unhelpful.

Before anyone decides to step in and offer other advice or make suggestions or PM or do anything other than commiserate from having similar experiences in the past/present, I don't want to hear a thing. I just had to say, for the billionth time, how much I dislike the whole thing and anyone who has a problem with me repeating this, well, they can ignore my posts. And just for consistency, boys suck...or something to that affect.

*...listens to song again*

WTF MY PERIOD IS BACK AGAIN.

Mine just ended. I hate having a period.

I hate having to decide between debilitating period cramps or a migraine brought on by the codeine which is the only thing that tames them.

I just hate it when it starts in the middle of the day. I mean, it just ruins your whole day! And then the cramps get so bad that you can't sleep. Ughhh

I just hate it when it starts in the middle of the day. I mean, it just ruins your whole day! And then the cramps get so bad that you can't sleep. Ughhh

I agree, but I don't know what worse, having it in the middle or waking up to it, becuase then the cramps last all day long.

I just hate it when it starts in the middle of the day. I mean, it just ruins your whole day! And then the cramps get so bad that you can't sleep. Ughhh

I agree, but I don't know what worse, having it in the middle or waking up to it, becuase then the cramps last all day long.

Yeah, when I first had my first period, it was during the middle of the school day in the middle of the week. I went around feeling like I had wet myself for like 3 hours until I got home and told my mom. Then I got another "talk".

Fun, fun, eh?

It's almost as bad when you wake up to it, and you didn't expect if for a few days, and then there's this huge mess to clean up.

Aaacck! puberty sucks...

Uhh, hate to tell you this but your period is going to be around long after puberty ends.

Oh, I know that. But I felt the need to emphasize that I hate puberty in the first place.

You and I both then.

I had my first one when my family and I were going to a water park during the summer holidays. It ruined the whole day...

OOOOoooooohhhhh, at a water park.......... That's terrible!

Yeah! Tell me about it.

I think the worse about getting it early is when you're really looking forward to going somewhere or doing something and then you can't because you have bad cramps or something. I mean, sometimes I just don't make any plans around the time I'm expecting it. OMG

Actually, I don't get cramps...yet... maybe cause I do lots of exercise...

Anyway, I do get quite grumpy also. I seem to snap at people more often and stuff.

Oh, nice. Yeah, some people just naturally don't get cramps.

I don't usually, but when I don't expect it, I get them. And they're always bad, too. Ughhh

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/ ... ithout-sex

too lazy to find the guy thread, but it posts here just as well. A very interesting article.

I'll admit, that one went right over my head until someone read it to me out loud. And then it suddenly made a world of sense.

http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-what- ... ize-model/


Okay, okay...plus-sized? She's a frickin' size 12, if I am remembering correctly from a different article I read. And holy cow, she's not fat; she's not toned but she's also not fat.

Also, I'd like to meet that stupid smurf who was quoted in this particular article. I could easily break him.

“Do we claim an average song to be a masterpiece? Is Milli Vanilli on the same plane as Mozart or even Madonna? This woman is pretty, don’t get me wrong, but I think fashion exists to fulfill a fantasy. I am frankly sick of the politically correct women seeking to make an idol over any woman that looks like she hasn’t been to the gym since No Doubt was on the Billboard 100.”

Whose fantasy?! Does anyone actually find those bony anorexic so-called supermodels attractive?

Maybe the fantasy is that extremely thin women are extremely attractive. In that manner, fashion does fulfill a fantasy.

Single ladies, have I got the guy for you!

A real class act

Single ladies, have I got the guy for you!

A real class act

Wow. There are no words.

Wow. There are no words.

I can think of a few. I'll need to stop giggling first, though.


I could not get over the whole "If there's nothing psychologically wrong with you but something bad did prevent you from calling me back, call me before 3PM Thursday." I mean, all of it was a riot/bad, but that part was the funniest/worst of it for me.


By the way, Jan, I think you're elegant. I'm going to PM you and you only have until 3PM Monday to respond. Keep in mind, there is nothing wrong with me, so write me back.


ETA: I'm not kidding even a little bit when I say I will be quoting this guy for the next week at least.

I can't stop giggling and wishing someone would call me elegant.

Fred you are so elegant.

OMG!! I almost peed myself laughing at that.

The voicemails were real, too, but "Dimitri" (James Sears) has since used them as a publicity stunt for his organization focusing on turning "wimps" into "real men."

The guy is also a batshit crazy ex-doctor who was charged with sexual assault.

Trying on jeans the night before your period is due is a BAD idea.

How so? Is it just as bad as wearing jeans during your period? Because, personally, I hate wearing jeans during mine.

I spent the day as a labor assistant/massage therapist for one of my dearest friends. It was so wonderful to witness the birth of her sweet baby girl. I've never seen a real, natural birth before. Mine were c-sections, so it was a whole new experience for me. It was definitely a fulfilling day for me. Mom told me over and over again afterward that she was so grateful I was there and that everyone needs a Steph during labor and that I made things much easier for her. I'm so happy that I could be that useful for her. I'm so happy that I wasn't feeling miserable today so that I could help. I am tired out, although not as tired as Mom. Luckily, I get a full night's sleep tonight and since my kids are at Grandma's for the night, I even get to sleep in. Poor Mom and Dad will be up most of the night tonight.

Sorry if this post is choppy and incomprehensible. I'm really tired (I'm pregnant and exhausted anyway!) and although it's only 7:30, I'm on my way to bed.

How so? Is it just as bad as wearing jeans during your period? Because, personally, I hate wearing jeans during mine.

Well, I weigh a good 2-3lbs more at night than I do in the morning (is that just me?). And water retention is a typical premenstrual symptom...so bloating and nighttime size versus morning size makes for a bad dressing room jeans session.

And Steph, how cool! I'm so jealous. I want to be a doula!

Why is it that the stupid period comes at the lest convinent time?

Because if it came at a convenient time, it wouldn't be as stupid.