Guilty Pleasures and Irrational Irritations

[Petrie]

I don't know if I'm veering off course too much with this but in response to brain and Steph, I have a very hard time believing people on emotional matters; the same can sometimes be said of more factual matters but those are disputed easily enough and when I'm wrong about those, I tend to be decent with admitting I'm wrong and apologizing where necessary.

But the more emotionally important a person is to me, sometimes the harder it is for me to believe pretty basic stuff like that they even like me as a person or care about me or don't think I'm the most boring thing in the history of the universe,etc. They can flat out tell me they do and that I'm not but I can't, no matter how hard I try, internalize it. Then, randomly, they'll say or do something and I'll believe it and remember all the things they've already done that made it apparent, that I couldn't see at the time for whatever reason, and I'll be flooded with this positive emotion...and then time passes and I'm back to square one.

It's frustrating for all parties involved.

[steph]

I don't know if I'm veering off course too much with this but in response to brain and Steph, I have a very hard time believing people on emotional matters; the same can sometimes be said of more factual matters but those are disputed easily enough and when I'm wrong about those, I tend to be decent with admitting I'm wrong and apologizing where necessary.

But the more emotionally important a person is to me, sometimes the harder it is for me to believe pretty basic stuff like that they even like me as a person or care about me or don't think I'm the most boring thing in the history of the universe,etc. They can flat out tell me they do and that I'm not but I can't, no matter how hard I try, internalize it. Then, randomly, they'll say or do something and I'll believe it and remember all the things they've already done that made it apparent, that I couldn't see at the time for whatever reason, and I'll be flooded with this positive emotion...and then time passes and I'm back to square one.

It's frustrating for all parties involved.

I totally relate. Ask Brian.

[neo-dragon]

I don't know if I'm veering off course too much with this but in response to brain and Steph, I have a very hard time believing people on emotional matters; the same can sometimes be said of more factual matters but those are disputed easily enough and when I'm wrong about those, I tend to be decent with admitting I'm wrong and apologizing where necessary.

But the more emotionally important a person is to me, sometimes the harder it is for me to believe pretty basic stuff like that they even like me as a person or care about me or don't think I'm the most boring thing in the history of the universe,etc. They can flat out tell me they do and that I'm not but I can't, no matter how hard I try, internalize it. Then, randomly, they'll say or do something and I'll believe it and remember all the things they've already done that made it apparent, that I couldn't see at the time for whatever reason, and I'll be flooded with this positive emotion...and then time passes and I'm back to square one.

It's frustrating for all parties involved.

In other words you're a big dope.

[Luet]

I don't know if I'm veering off course too much with this but in response to brain and Steph, I have a very hard time believing people on emotional matters; the same can sometimes be said of more factual matters but those are disputed easily enough and when I'm wrong about those, I tend to be decent with admitting I'm wrong and apologizing where necessary.

But the more emotionally important a person is to me, sometimes the harder it is for me to believe pretty basic stuff like that they even like me as a person or care about me or don't think I'm the most boring thing in the history of the universe,etc. They can flat out tell me they do and that I'm not but I can't, no matter how hard I try, internalize it. Then, randomly, they'll say or do something and I'll believe it and remember all the things they've already done that made it apparent, that I couldn't see at the time for whatever reason, and I'll be flooded with this positive emotion...and then time passes and I'm back to square one.

It's frustrating for all parties involved.

In other words you're a big dope.

Nope, she's a normal girl. Or at least one with typical self-esteem issues. Dr. Phil says (yes, I love him, shut up!), "It takes a thousand 'atta boy's to erase one negative comment." Unfortunately, it's easier to believe the negative things people have said to us over the years - either directly or indirectly (by their actions). So, it takes hearing something positive from a person we love MANY, MANY times before we can come close to believing it in our hearts. This can, understandable, be really frustrating to the men in our lives.

[neo-dragon]

Yeah, I know.

'Dope' is just a pet name. It's what I affectionately call Alea when she's being Alea.

[Luet]

Ah, okay. We girls have to stick together, you know.

[mr_thebrain]

I misinterpret Brian sometimes. He hates that. It's more likely to happen when I'm already stressed and emotional about something else. I feel bad when it happens, and maybe that's what separates me and your wife?

yeah, she doesn't feel bad, she just divorces me.... LMAO

[Petrie]

Thanks, Nomi. <3

I feel like I need to quote Daria just now ("Daria - Don't worry. I don't have low self-esteem. It's a mistake. Jake - I'll say! Daria - I have low esteem for everyone else."), because I'm reminded of that and not because it directly applies to any of what you said.



Jason, I know how you meant it and for that, I have to also say thank you to you, for associating "when she's being Alea" with mostly positive connotations. Earlier this week, I was told something along the lines of "I hate it when you're being Alea-y" and it bothered me. It was like saying the majority of what made me specifically me was worthy of being hated, when really, it was a subset of things that I, like many other people, do that they (hopefully) meant. I mean, I know I have some flaws but I would like to think anyone who actually knew a thing about me would consider "being Alea-y" to be a mostly good thing. So, as one of my favorite people would say, "f*** that noise."

[Dr. Mobius]

As someone who claims to actually know a thing or two about you, I would definately consider "being Alea-y" to be a mostly good thing.

[steph]

As someone who claims to actually know a thing or two about you, I would definately consider "being Alea-y" to be a mostly good thing.

2nded.

[Petrie]

Thanks, guys. :)



P.S. Josh owes me a phone call and I'm firing him until he delivers...even if he does think nice things about me most of the time.

[Dr. Mobius]

I thought you were going to call me. Since when do I initiate these things?

I'm on evenings this week, give me a day when you'll be available during the day and I'll call before work.

[Petrie]

Mondays are the only day that I am available during the day. I told you last time to let me know when you were available.

[Dr. Mobius]

I was off this monday. >.> Just started a seven day stretch, I'll be off next wednesday and thursday.

[Petrie]

Irritation: The sheer amount of food my mom allows to go to waste.

I try to eat leftovers, in the cases where there are any, but that's not the only thing that goes to waste. Fruit, bread, other stuff I can't think of right now.

The kitchen is hardly my favorite place in the house but I can't wait until I have my own, so I can avoid doing the things I think she does wrong.

[Luet]

I've probably mentioned this before but I get so irritated when people use/type wonder and wander interchangeably. Same thing with loose and lose. It drives me bonkers.

[Syphon the Sun]

I wander why you loose it in that kind of situation.

[Luet]

Oh, you're a funny one.

[Luet]

(Not irrational) Irritation: All the Dunkin' Donuts within an hour of me stopped carrying French Crullers, my absolute favorite donut.

Guilty pleasure: I'm driving my brother and his family to Hartford airport this afternoon and I called the DD there (because I'm that crazy) and they have set aside a half dozen French Crullers for me. I'm going to be eating SIX of them tonight!! Well, maybe I'll save some for tomorrow morning. Sweet, melt in your mouth, flaky goodness.

[steph]

(Not irrational) Irritation: All the Dunkin' Donuts within an hour of me stopped carrying French Crullers, my absolute favorite donut.

Guilty pleasure: I'm driving my brother and his family to Hartford airport this afternoon and I called the DD there (because I'm that crazy) and they have set aside a half dozen French Crullers for me. I'm going to be eating SIX of them tonight!! Well, maybe I'll save some for tomorrow morning. Sweet, melt in your mouth, flaky goodness.

Come visit me and I'll make you crullers. I haven't done them yet, but they are the same dough as the cream puff I just made, just fried instead of baked. They are Brian's favorite, too, so I'm planning on frying some next time I make the dough.

[ender1]

Great, now I'm hungry.

[thoughtreader]

Great, now I'm hungry.

Same

[Claire]

(Not irrational) Irritation: All the Dunkin' Donuts within an hour of me stopped carrying French Crullers, my absolute favorite donut.

Guilty pleasure: I'm driving my brother and his family to Hartford airport this afternoon and I called the DD there (because I'm that crazy) and they have set aside a half dozen French Crullers for me. I'm going to be eating SIX of them tonight!! Well, maybe I'll save some for tomorrow morning. Sweet, melt in your mouth, flaky goodness.

Hartford, represent!

[Young Val]

Nomi, you are killing me.

Barely any DDs in New York City. NONE in Minnesota. Before we even get out of Logan Airport on July 9th, I'm buying an iced coffee the size of my FACE.

[Luet]

I love their iced coffee even more once I realized they'll make it with liquid sugar instead of regular. Then you don't have all those sugar granules sitting at the bottom. I still have three french crullers left for breakfast.

[Eaquae Legit]

You are all so American.

[ender1]

You are all so American.

Yes, we are awesome. Thanks.

[megxers]

You are all so American.

I could go for an ice Capp from Timmies right about now. The closest is apparently Victoria.

[Petrie]

Does it make me unAmerican if I don't drink tea or coffee?


Exception being Chai when it is cold out but that's not healthy tea the way I drink it.

[steph]

Does it make me unAmerican if I don't drink tea or coffee?

Nope. Just Mormon.

[Luet]

Actually, I have a question about that. Is it okay for Mormons to have decaf/caffeine-free coffee/tea/soda? Or no to coffee/tea/soda regardless of the caffeine content? What about herbal tea like chamomile or rooibos? Just curious.

[steph]

Actually, I have a question about that. Is it okay for Mormons to have decaf/caffeine-free coffee/tea/soda? Or no to coffee/tea/soda regardless of the caffeine content? What about herbal tea like chamomile or rooibos? Just curious.

The Word of Wisdom states that "hot drinks" are not for the belly. More recent prophets have defined that phrase to mean coffee and tea from the tea leaf. It actually has nothing to do with caffeine, so soda and hot chocolate are fine. Herbal teas are also fine. I use Celestial Seasonings Tender Tummy when I'm pregnant and Traditional Medicinal's Mother's Milk Tea while I'm nursing.

It may not make sense to non-LDS, but for us, we trust what we believe our Heavenly Father has given to us in this health code.

[Syphon the Sun]

Thanks, steph. I've always wondered that, too. I couldn't survive the summer months without frequent tall glasses of iced tea.

At least you get hot chocolate, though! (Which is my favorite warm beverage.)

[starlooker]

Irrational Irritation: Iceberg lettuce. Because what is the point of it, really, other than crunching? No nutritional value, not something I would dignify with the title of "leafy green," and does not even taste remotely good.

Rational Irritation: Wendy's salads have all kinds of leafy greens on top, hiding a huge bed of iceberg lettuce underneath.

[Eaquae Legit]

Irrational Irritation: Iceberg lettuce. Because what is the point of it, really, other than crunching? No nutritional value, not something I would dignify with the title of "leafy green," and does not even taste remotely good.

Rational Irritation: Wendy's salads have all kinds of leafy greens on top, hiding a huge bed of iceberg lettuce underneath.

ARRRRGH I hate that!