The Guys not talking about Guy Stuff Thread

[Jebus]

Ow, they burn your cock? Well that's no fun. And it doesn't really sound like you're being numbed at all. In fact, it sounds like the opposite of numbing.

[daPyr0x]

They numb just how good sex feels by overriding your senses with pain. It's not a fun sensation.

Now, warming condoms, those are interesting...

[Eddie Pinz]

Not about condoms, but has any one tried the KY his and her lube? The commercial had me intrigued, but I really don't have a steady 'her' right now, so I never got around to buying/trying them.

[daPyr0x]

Here's a question...

How do you bring up sex as a conversation topic with the person you are with? I mean, do you guys just bring it up out of nowhere if it never comes up?

For some reason I've always seen sex as a commonly taboo topic. Not that I have any problems talking about it, but I figure I may offend others so I choose not to bring it up. Now that I Want to, I have no idea how...

[Gravity Defier]

The commercial had me intrigued

Ditto.

(If you fellows don't mind, I'll be hanging out in here because the other gals don't seem to want to discuss anything other than periods and all things associated with them. Tis more interesting 'round these parts.)

[powerfulcheese04]

The guys crash the girl thread all the time, Alea! I'm sure girls can crash the guy thread, too!

As to Cameron's question... I don't know how to bring it up in a relationship where it feels taboo. But, with my current boyfriend if there's something either of us wants to say about sex, we just bring it up. And it's relatively non-awkward (I mean, sometimes the segue can be awkward, but that can be true of any number of things, many of which aren't sexual) and a really good thing to be able to talk about!

[locke]

regarding pwebs history with not having much in the way of discussions about sexual matters, I think a lot of that is attributed to many pwebbers at the time not having a whole lot of experience in sexual matters. therefore if anyone did say anything the reaction was crickets, spamish (otaku, eriador for example) or bright-red-cheeked-scolding tone about how there are children here!

[Petra456]

I've never been able to bring the subject of sex up without it being awkward, but for me that's half the fun. In the relationship i'm in now i've learned to just say what i'm thinking, because he's probably thinking the same thing at the same time.

Cam, I use to be really shy about that sort of stuff, but I learned that if it's with someone you really trust, the awkwardness goes away after the first couple questions/topics. You've gotta kinda find out where her comfort levels are.

[thoughtreader]

Not about condoms, but has any one tried the KY his and her lube? The commercial had me intrigued, but I really don't have a steady 'her' right now, so I never got around to buying/trying them.

My fiancé and I tried it… I really liked what it did for me, an intense tingling (orgasm like) sensation. I was a BIG fan! My fiancé on the other hand didn’t feel much of a difference. As far as the whole “when they combine” thing I didn’t notice much of a change… but like I said I was already loving it. He had they same opinion not much of a change.

In short AMAZING for the girls… ok about the same for the guys.

Here's a question...

How do you bring up sex as a conversation topic with the person you are with? I mean, do you guys just bring it up out of nowhere if it never comes up?

For some reason I've always seen sex as a commonly taboo topic. Not that I have any problems talking about it, but I figure I may offend others so I choose not to bring it up. Now that I Want to, I have no idea how...

My family was always open about everything sex included… my mom bought me condoms when I lost my virginity… So I never had the problem of feeling like it was taboo.

I’ve found its best to just bring it up when you’re alone with the person in a comfortable place. Sitting watching TV, on a walk in the park, snuggling in bed, wherever you two are comfortable together. Just be honest and straight forward with her.

[Young Val]

If you want to have a more serious talk about your sex life, I find that it's best to have that conversation when there are no distractions, and when you're not in bed.

In my experience the topic doesn't often "just come up." The first time my boyfriend and I had a conversation about our sex life, he brought it up when we were home one weekend. He was a little embarrassed and it was a little bit awkward at first, but he just took a quiet moment in the day and said, literally, "Hey, I wanted to talk to you a little bit about our sex life and some things I've been thinking about."

And of course I immediately thought that something was wrong, and got nervous, but there was nothing wrong at all. We had a good conversation that we both contributed to and had....good results.

Once you get the first conversation out of the way, subsequent conversations become easier to have.

[Eddie Pinz]

I think that it really depends on what the conversation is about. I can basically think of three categories:
Wanting to try new things, Wanting to try new things that maybe outside her comfort zone, or talking about a problem or issue that is going.

The first, I think can be spur of the moment or even in the moment. For instance, you want to try a new position or you want to try a new place. I have always kind of brought up in the moment and always got good feedback. Sometimes the position or place didn't work out, but that's a different story.

The second, should happen where you alone and comfortable talking. A lot times, I have done this after sex when we were cuddling or whatever (depending on how tired we were). I would usually ask about her fantasies or if she ever wanted to try something she has never done. After the initial conversation, I found that it starts coming up more often. After our first conversation, my ex used to mind all sorts of goodies in the magazines she read.

The third, I am not really sure. I never really had that problem, but I would handle it just like any other problem that came up. I would just bring it up. It might be awkward at first, but I always try get things in the open right away. Because any issue that is ignored or you think 'it will get better', will definitely cause issues done the road.

[elfprince13]

Once you get the first conversation out of the way, subsequent conversations become easier to have.

This is a good rule of thumb for all sorts of awkward conversations.

[locke]

added a new poll, the parentheses "(boys)" are so girls can vote too, so the sentence is intended to be read two ways:

"How do you prefer your face?"
or
"How do you prefer your boy's face?"

Not that Han had stubble, but then I don't think we ever did see an actual nerf herder which I would presume would have stubble.

Permanent facial hair is intended to encompass everything from a simple stash to a a full blown beard. Goatees included of course, as well as beard's as long as Merlin's in Sword in the Stone.

[Petra456]

I went for permanent, but not the full on beard.

[thoughtreader]

I like clean shaven.

I love taking a shower with my boyfriend and shaving his face. he is so smooth and kissable when I'm done.

[Mich]

In this comic, I am Gabe (the guy in the yellow shirt).

I keep clean-shaven to avoid embarrassment.

[locke]

I gotta say, the mexican dude in my middle school that had an ugly fuzz of black moustache attached to his upper lip put me off letting facial hair grow out for a good six or seven years.

[daPyr0x]

I used to always be clean shaven, and I had absolutely no desire to change that. I like the clean look.

However, somewhere around a year ago when I was on my "let's make/change my life" journey when I went to Ohio I got talked in to trying for some facial hair, so I did. I wasn't feeling the full beard look (though give me a couple days and I'll have one...) so I went down to the goatee. I've not received (m)any complaints, and the compliments far outweigh them, so I've kept it.

So I'm for the goatee; but I still do like the cleanshaven thing. Maybe I'll go back to that sometime...

[Eddie Pinz]

I rock the goatee manly because I hate shaving my chin and I have had it for so long that I look damn goofy without it. I am usually pretty scruffy on top of that because I don't have to shave for work and I hate shaving. Plus, to be completely clean, I would have to shave twice a day and that will never happen. Plus, girls seem to take to the stubble.

[daPyr0x]

I'd say that depends entirely on the girl...

For instance... I dated one girl who liked it when I'd come over straight from work...something about being stinky, dirty and sweaty was a turn on I guess...

[Gov%ShakespeareCol]

Plus, girls seem to take to the stubble.

My girl doesn't. It's a shame too, because I kind of like the stubbled "nerf-herder" look. But for her, the stubble is just too pokey. It's fine if I have a full beard, because that is soft hair. And it's fine if I'm clean shaven, because that is smooth skin. But she doesn't like getting poked by stiff stuble.

[zeroguy]

In this comic, I am Gabe (the guy in the yellow shirt).

I'm Tycho (except I generally try to avoid that much hair), and believe you me, it can be annoying as hell. I tend to go around unclean-shaven; liked a half-assed shave, because when I do it's in the morning and I don't much care for completeness and I'm usually in a rush. It's just to avoid the annoyance; for appearance I think I like the look of some stubble at least, but I don't really like feeling it actually on me.

[Eddie Pinz]

I'd say that depends entirely on the girl...

Absolutely. I guess I should have said, "most girls I meet, tend to take to the stubble".

For instance... I dated one girl who liked it when I'd come over straight from work...something about being stinky, dirty and sweaty was a turn on I guess...

I hear you on the one. Some people get turned on by weird things (or at least weird by my standards). This girl that I used to date liked when I would get so sweat during sex, that my sweat would drip off of me and on to her. I didn't really get it, but need less to say we usually had sex in very warm places.

Gov,

The extra texture that stubble provides may be a turn off to some girls while kissing, but it works wonders on other areas of the body.

[Gov%ShakespeareCol]

The extra texture that stubble provides may be a turn off to some girls while kissing, but it works wonders on other areas of the body.

I'll be sure to tell her this. See if she's willing to give it a try.

[buckshot]

If I could I would skip shaving allltogether . My girl sometimes makes me shave again in the evening too, and I just hate it!

[Eaquae Legit]

Stubble's a no on this front. Don't mind smooth, don't mind soft, but prickly is a real pain (literally).

[Gov%ShakespeareCol]

(On a side note)

I LOVE your user name Eaquae Legit. But it has been so long since I have had a Latin class that I am struggling with the little tag-line below it. Is it "Drive that which drives you"? In a sort of 'don't be mastered by anything' kind of way?

[Eaquae Legit]

"Do what you do" was the intent, I believe. I didn't write it, and I may yet change it slightly. Thanks!

[locke]

age quod agis

[buckshot]

Ok Guy's how do we like our Gal's , All natural ,or clean shaven?

[Mich]

My cousin has a mustache, but she's adopted from India. I don't know if that serves as any kind of explanation, but it normally serves in conversations such as this.

[locke]

clean shaven is more good smells, less bad smells, shouldn't be like sticking your face in an armpit. imo. that said, natural is excellent as well and the all natural girl I knew was more clean than any of the other girls, so that can rock as well. What's not so good for me was a girl who was in between, all about 1/2 inch long, very prickly and stinky (see armpit comment). woman-scaping is cool too, one girl had like a 'landing strip' going on, which was fun.

[buckshot]

Grass don't grow on the race track brother!! :

[elfprince13]

I'm generally somewhere between clean shaven and scruffy. I like to be clean shaven, but my scruff doesn't grow fast enough for me to bother getting rid of it every day.

[Gravity Defier]

I know this may be in poor taste to ask but curiosity has gotten the best of me:

How many times on a typical day do you boys masturbate?

So far I've heard 2-3 times and 4 times from two anonymous sources. That seems like a lot to me and my other source, a female, who say once is enough.