Dear You 2.0

[starlooker]

Dear You,

Well, that was unexpected. I haven't thought about you in ages. Facebook's a crazy thing, huh?

Anyhow, I was a little bit hesitant to talk at first, but I'm glad we did. Glad you've settled down and that I have, too.

And I'm also glad we never really got together. I know it wouldn't have worked out. No way in hell. But I think of you fondly (mostly) and it was fun catching up after all this time.

Your Ex-Mystery

[Jayelle]

Dear You,

About the new avatar... it makes me feel all creepy crawly and gives me the heebie-jeebies.

You don't HAVE to change it, but GAH! *shudder* Get off mah screen.

JL

[locke]

aww, he's just a little bugger.

I had the same reaction when I saw it on another forum. :p

[Petra456]

My cat loves your new avatar...

[locke]

glad someone likes it!

[human.]

Dear You,

I swear I've written you more dear yous than anyone else, but every time you talk to me, my emotions go crazy. I really like you. I always have since I met you. But man, I don't know what you do to me. It kind of scares me sometimes. I have tried so many times to just remove you from my thoughts and my life or to change how I see you to that of an older brother who looks out for me. But then you suddenly find interest in me again or mention the way my hair got in the way while we were kissing or some other random and insignificant thing that happened between us, and I'm back to square one. You just confuse me. But if you hadn't left, I wouldn't feel so secure in my life as I do at the moment. And security is very comforting to me. So, I don't know. I didn't think you'd have access to computers there... And what were the chances that the half hour you were online because you couldn't sleep, I would be online, too? I wish I believed in fate sometimes.

I just feel so scattered after talking with you. Why can't I be two people? Or even, why can't I know what would happen if I made different choices in my life? Then I could separate everything. Then I could be more definitive.

Just, take care of yourself and get home safely. I can't stay for you, but I'll come back to you when you need it.

Kelsey.

[megxers]

Dear you,

I love that we won't talk for days and then you'll text me out of the blue to tell me that you're going to see a movie & which one. I'm not sure what reaction you are intending to elicit out of me but I know that it seriously toys with my emotions.

Especially since its highly likely that you're going with her. The one who is allowed to leave "I miss you" and such on your wall while I can't even bring myself to invite you to my birthday party when I haven't seen you since August.

[Gravity Defier]

Dear You,

heehee, I got mail today. I promise I'll do my best to wear it well. Thanks a million.

<3,
Alea

[Eaquae Legit]

Dear You,

YAY! And what a great pic!

-

[locke]

You look great. and the jewelry is rather becoming as well.

[jotabe]

hehehe you look lovely!

[daPyr0x]

Dear You^^^^,

You look purrrrrrrrrdy

--Some pervert on the internet

Dear You,

What? Seriously, what? I know there's some reason, I just don't know what it is. That's a lie, I suspect I do, but clearly there's something you want to talk about, and you think you can coax me in to doing it for you. I'm not gonna. If you want to talk, let's talk; otherwise I'm totally okay with letting things stew. Your other method won't work.

--Me

[Gravity Defier]

Aww, thanks, guys.

[megxers]

Dear you,

You're 21. No. Just, no.

[starlooker]

Dear You,

Please try to remember that doing things is seldom as bad as dreading things. Also, does Spider Solitaire really bring you such joy that it's worth getting people pissed off at you? Furthermore, I understand it's impossible to perfectly practice what you preach all of the time, but could you try to narrow that gap just a wee bit? I think you'd find that you preach some fairly intelligent and helpful things. Physician, heal thyself, etc.

Yourself

[Peterlover14]

Dear You,

15 year old boys shouldn't be so busy. It's insane! I miss you all the time, and texting you everyday really isn't enough for me. Stop changing the plans! You can't just change things up over night and then wake up expecting it to be okay. We when set something up, I'd appreciate it of you double check to make sure you don't have other stuff to do.

I need to spend more time with you, or I'll just implode. I don't care about the right moment anymore, I wan't to kiss you. Really bad. It could probably happen sooner if you weren't so BUSY.

And how do you tell me all these scary things about you and then expect me not to worry? You probably have a freakin eating disorder and want me to forget about it. Eat a damn hamburger! Enough of the low cal Asian food!

Missing you even though it's been only 45 minutes,
Miranda

P.S. The Pad Thai really was good.

[human.]

Dear You,

Thanks for the last two and a half years. It has been/is amazing! I'm really, really happy you're in my life. Only three more months until college and we're only a couple of hours apart! Thanks for your patience. =]

Kelsey.

[Syphon the Sun]

Dear you,

It'd be great if your personal drama with other members was kept off the board or (at least) the names kept private. It's just a suggestion, of course, and you're by no means required to follow it, but it's one you might want to at least consider.

-Your friendly neighborhood community member

[zeroguy]

Since nobody ever does that...

[locke]

seriously?

you did it all yesterday wrote down all the steps then and somehow don't remember to write half of them?

You don't even remember there were two things you put on the disc you burn?

I'm so looking forward to not having to see that dead, questioning look of dull incomprehension in your eyes when explaining something to you.

it's virtually impossible trying to train you or teach you anything.

ugh.

[daPyr0x]

Dear You,

So, you think you get to pay less than half the rent, regularly leave food to spoil in the kitchen for extended periods of time (>1week), AND give me s*** for leaving a few empties on the stand when I go away for a weekend? Look I get it, this happens every time you bring your girlfriend over. You suddenly think "hey, this place is a sty, god my roommate is a pig 'cause half this mess is his." Of course, that doesn't take into account that the other half is yours and has been there for over a week, as opposed to your roommate's mess from the night previous, as he chose to go away for a couple days not knowing company would be over. No, it's your messy roommate who's clearly worse, who seems to always have some complaint about YOU being messy...I wonder why that could be?

Please move out. Seriously, save me the hassle of kicking you out. Please just leave. I would rather be alone.

--Me

[Gravity Defier]

Dear You,

If I swear on my beloved Shish to send you the Chicago pictures finally, will you try to give Life the finger and find an internet connection? I miss you. If it's because your mom thinks I abused you and made you depressed, I'll "bake" her an Oreo by way of apology, even though I don't think that's fair of her to think so.

Sincerely,

The Mexican

PS You know that one thing I once expressed interest in you finding for me because I was curious but didn't know where to start looking for it? The Disney-related stuff? Flipping found it!


Dear You,

Grow up. If you can't or don't want to, just say that in the first place.

-Alea

[Luet]

Dear you,

A long time ago,
we used to be friends,
but I haven't thought of you lately at all.

-me

[Young Val]

Dear you,

The urge to watch Veronica Mars now is irresistible.

Also, ::::

Love,
Kel

[Luet]

Dear you,

Just finishing the first season for the third time. Love it more than ever. I'm about to give it to my mom to try to get her hooked.

*hugs*

love,
nom

[locke]

dear you,

you stayed friends with your last boyfriend, so when that event was about to come up (this weekend) and you had bought me a ticket to I contacted you to make sure it was a plus one and not in my name (since I knew one was at least in your name. I was relieved it wasn't in my name but I didn't want it to go to waste if it was in my name. have fun. but I did think if it was in my name there wouldn't be any trouble us going to it as friends. hell I just spent a weekend hanging out with an ex and her husband, I don't bear ill will like that--I move on. You said you wanted to be friends still so I left you on my mailling lists for functions like bbqs movies and poker, I asked you if you still wanted to get those mails and you said no and that I needed to move on.

Wow. confusing. I haven't carried a torch for you. I wasn't holding out a hope that something would happen if we saw each other again. I extinguished that hope when I went to your place two weeks after you dumped me to pick up my stuff. I learned that lesson years ago. on the other hand its a little disheartening that you want so little to do with me considering how many friends we had in common and how good friends you stayed with your last boyfriend before me. It's not as though we had an ugly breakup, so again, confused at your antipathy to social stuff.

I've been depressed, which you knew, but you weren't the total cause of that depression. You were a trigger, but my sadness at our breakup didn't become depression until nearly a month after you dumped me. Actually I became pretty depressed when my car broke down and I lost my mobility temporarily--that led to a lot of time to reflect on me personally and the various failings I have had. Primarily I reflected on how I've failed to live up to my own dreams and failed to accomplish what I've wanted to accomplish by this point in life. As I thought about how all my dreams for my career are basically dead I became more and more depressed as my life looked basically hopeless. The real source of my depression was the fact that I no longer saw any future for myself I thought I would happy with as a career. My job at the time was the definition of a dead end, and it had been a mistake to go there, and go back there. It's notable that the thing that lifted me out of my depression was quitting my job, because then I started feeling like I had a future again--even unemployed I feel I have more of a future than I did when earning a paycheck.

Which is not to say my failed lovelife didn't have a big component in my depression as well. Part of not believing I had any future was the conclusion based on objective observation of all my relationships that I wasn't ever going to have a successful relationship. That was a new thought for me, and that thought developed by concluding that as a complete failure I really had nothing to offer to any woman so there were no qualities of value or substance for others to see. and you can't build something successful on nothing. So that relationship side of my life was looking like a failure on par with the career side of my life. Though honestly, during that period I was still talking to and socializing with girls, getting numbers, following up, reactivating a dating account and so on. I've still got confidence there; confidence that I lacked completely in my career/job at the time I was worst depressed, and again, the depression was more about seeing myself failing at everything, primarily failing at the goals I had set myself and the places I'd envisioned myself being at 26 because I haven't made a single movement towards any of those goals since graduating college. so you say move on. And it feels like a bit of a rebuke, I think it stings not because I haven't moved on from the relationship but because I haven't moved on in terms of my career. I need to advance to new places in that side of my life. I coasted through school. I coasted through my jobs I've had in my career so far. I need to start actually trying. Because when I try I accomplish pretty impressive things. Coasting is an old old habit to me, I'm lazy because I rarely have to put forth effort to succeed and that's an aspect of my psyche I'm going to have to retrain.

So yeah, thanks for the bizarre conversation, I seriously gave my blackberry a "what the hell" look when it was over because I thought you knew me a little bit better than what the conversation implied. Your side of the convo did indicate that you definitely think of me with the same mixture of pity and scorn you often displayed towards exs when speaking of them to me. I'm not surprised at that. I remember being shocked, initially at the pure contempt with which you'd speak about exloves, and I remember wondering if you'd really loved them to hold them in such low regard. I think I'm sort of proud to have your contempt, at this point, as its a sign you didn't love me the way I understand love to be, and your love probably is as selfishly oriented and stunted as I often feared it might be when we were together. The way I understand love is expansive and encompassing, it is rooted in generosity of spirit and mind and its clear now that you never once understood that.

[starlooker]

Dear You,

PLEASE email me. Or call me. And let me know. PLEASE. Now would be good.

Your advisee

[jotabe]

Dear you,

if writing on a post you will never read can help somehow my conversation with you to keep you from doing, i will.

Please, don't do it

your best friend.

[daPyr0x]

Dear You,

You know what, I'm impressed. You sure did move quicker than I anticipated. I'm glad you did, though. You've gotta see what's bad to be able to appreciate what's good. I genuinely hope it doesn't turn out too badly for you. As in, I hope you don't get in over your head.

That's a real pussy move, though. To not even say anything? You really think I'm that stupid, don't you? Be glad I'm your brother. You're going to have to learn to grow a pair if you're gonna survive in the real world. However, that's really the point of this whole exercise. You wouldn't learn anything if I let you get away with that kind of s***; 'cause nobody else will either. That ain't right for you to try and f*** me with the money though, and it ain't legal either FYI. Just know I'll make sure the landlord knows where to find the rest of the rent, 'cause I can move right quick, and once we're down that road there's no way I'm going back to a bigger place to accommodate your desire to save funds. You don't know it, but I've spent the last two years of my life pointed in a direction that revolved around caring for you, making sure you were okay. I do hope you continue to be.

--Me

[Eddie Pinz]

Dear You,

Now every time that you say something, I am going to wonder if it is about me(Does that make me egotistical?). But if what you said was about me, it is 100 percent accurate. You shouldn't waste your time on me. I'm really not worth it.

Wimp

[Syphon the Sun]

Dear you,

As a future Chicagoan, you better be rooting for the Blackhawks tonight. This could be the end of the longest active Stanley Cup drought in the NHL. Deal?

-Me

PS -- You must also grow a mustache.

[Mich]

Dear you,

I really wish that I was a future Chicagoan, now, so I would have an excuse to grow a mustache.

Thanks for making me feel bad.

Love me.

[locke]

Dear Me,

Don't feel bad about spending some money on some new clothes, your sneakers have holes in them, all your khackis have fallen apart, your jeans are alright, though mainly just the two new pair you got at christmas and frankly a lot of shirts are both old and too big (they hang on you like a tent). so spending 80 at ross earlier today was probably a wise investment. and you should shop for new clothes more often. and throw out more of your old stuff. Not everything has to be worn into an inch of its life, some of those shirts you've had since high school.

oh and you really need a bunch of new socks. and boxers. but that's a lower priority, two new pair khackis, a couple nice shirts and a pair of good shoes were necessary.

Still, watch your damn spending, you don't have a job right now, you know.

by the way, ask for clothes for your birthday, not dvds/blurays/books like usual. :-p

also, go to bed you insomniac.

Yourself

[Gravity Defier]

Dear Yous,

Don't take this the wrong way but you make me sad, constantly.



Dear You,

I'll be honest, I was upset with you for two days, even though I know you were trying to do the right thing (it was the right thing, I was coming to that conclusion on my own, just needed my time to play with the idea first), but then you tried to take it back. You tried to revise it. That sucked. Fine if it's gone, needs to be forced away, whatever, but don't change what it was.

I'm good now. I'm happy with it all. And maybe this wasn't intended but that whole thing made me really appreciate you more, so if I try to fold you into my little circle of people I consider Go-To, one of my best friends, I'd really like it if that was okay with you. There's a comfort there, on my end, that can't be made/forced and I think that's rare enough to not want to lose.

Sincerely,
Me


Dear You,

Sorry. I should have been happier for you than I was and less of a bitch in general. That's fantastic and I know you'll keep going. I love what you've been lately. And you better be working on my movie.

-Me

Dear You,

It's never too late to be a future Chicagoan (until you die, anyway...). There are at least 2 of us heading to the Windy City in 2012. I say we take a stand on my beloved and ambush him. Then we could have monthly gatherings.

Or you can just try to grow a mustache, to hell with reasons and rationalization.

Me

[Confessions]

Dear You,

Since it's not you, it's going to have to be him.

I wanted it to be you.