Girly Stuff

[Eaquae Legit]

I asked Rei about this this morning. I generally don't refer to myself as "fine." If I'm "not fine but I will be eventually", I say that. If I'm genuinely okay and just quiet or something, I'll say "I'm good" or similar.

I believe in being honest with Rei especially, so when I'm not even sure what I'm feeling, I'll just tell him that.

[Rei]

I'm trying to think if I still use that word, really. I'm reasonably sure that in the past I have used 'fine' to mean "I'm far from fine but there's not a whole hell of a lot that anyone can do about it right now and it's best not discussed and I don't want to drag you into it." That particular meaning, however, has largely been reserved for people with whom I am less close and naturally would not want to dump a huge emotional load onto.

As to whether I still use the word 'fine' and whether it still has that meaning when I say it, I am not sure.

[neo-dragon]

I asked Rei about this this morning. I generally don't refer to myself as "fine." If I'm "not fine but I will be eventually", I say that. If I'm genuinely okay and just quiet or something, I'll say "I'm good" or similar.

I believe in being honest with Rei especially, so when I'm not even sure what I'm feeling, I'll just tell him that.

See, now that makes sense and works well for all parties involved.

Hey, Rei. I think this one is a keeper.

[LilBee91]

I'm trying to think if I still use that word, really. I'm reasonably sure that in the past I have used 'fine' to mean "I'm far from fine but there's not a whole hell of a lot that anyone can do about it right now and it's best not discussed and I don't want to drag you into it." That particular meaning, however, has largely been reserved for people with whom I am less close and naturally would not want to dump a huge emotional load onto.

That's usually how I use it. If I don't want to dump everything on someone, I say "fine" as "It's not your concern. I'll deal with it." People I actually care about being open and honest with don't usually get that treatment. I think I have used it as a "We'll address this later" type of thing, though I usually just say that.

[Eaquae Legit]

I asked Rei about this this morning. I generally don't refer to myself as "fine." If I'm "not fine but I will be eventually", I say that. If I'm genuinely okay and just quiet or something, I'll say "I'm good" or similar.

I believe in being honest with Rei especially, so when I'm not even sure what I'm feeling, I'll just tell him that.

See, now that makes sense and works well for all parties involved.

Hey, Rei. I think this one is a keeper.

I should add that people I know less well will usually get "I'm okay" or something because there's no need for them to know or care or be burdened by it. But people who might genuinely care, they'll get a weird and straightforward answer.

[Rei]

See, now that makes sense and works well for all parties involved.

Hey, Rei. I think this one is a keeper.

I'm apt to agree

[zeroguy]

I believe in being honest with Rei especially, so when I'm not even sure what I'm feeling, I'll just tell him that.

For a second I thought it made a lot more sense to just start saying this when people ask how I'm doing. But then I realized responding with "I don't know" sounds like I'm really depressed or not-genial. Maybe I'll start going with "probably well", instead of either lying or stopping to think how I actually feel (my current undesirable go-to responses).

[Luet]

This is the second time in the last few months that my period has been almost over, when it starts anew. It usually lasts about 4 days but now at the end of the fourth day, the bleeding starts heavily like it was the first day all over again, cramps and all. This is ridiculous!

[locke]

irrationally angry at the post office a few weeks ago because I thought I'd been screwed over and an important package wasn't going to arrive before new years. I was swearing pretty prolifically and knew it was bugging renee. Being a person who hates the passive aggressive phrases like "I'm Fine." I paused mid swearing to say, "I'm not really angry, except maybe at myself; I just have to vent for a little bit. I'll be back to normal in about ten minutes." and then swore a bit more and fumed for a few minutes and then I was fine.

So that's the sort of thing I say.

[starlooker]

Two f****** months in a row! Goddamn it, goddamn it all to hell! ARGH.

Allow me to clarify.

For YEARS now, literally YEARS, my period has been on a 28 day cycle. Oh, sure, there have been minor deviations -- maybe 27 or 29 days, but that's it. But now, for two months in a row it has showed up FIVE DAYS EARLY. That's right. I am apparently now on a 23 day cycle. That's basically just three weeks! And since my breasts get tender and sore and miserable at least a week before my period starts, I get one week out of five now, instead of one week out of four, where everything feels fine and nothing is hurting. Plus PMS moods every three weeks instead of every four. Plus ruining my birthday and Valentines day, although it probably won't affect my husband's birthday.

I am SO annoyed. Very, very, very annoyed. Mucho pissed off.

[Luet]

I hear you. My cycle has been an average of 25 days (but often 23 days) for many years. And since I also get the week of sore breasts and depression, it really sucks.

[steph]

When I was in college, my cycle was about 5 weeks. I went on BC to try and help with intense cramps and the BC did nothing for the cramps, but then I had a 4 week cycle instead of a 5 week, so I quit the BC. I miss those days of the 5 week cycle!

Now, I'm so sporadic! And there's no telling how long it will be until it's on a steady cycle. My first one post partum was pretty intense, and then a really light one 2 weeks later. This one is 4 weeks later and it's seriously going to kill me. I got up in the middle of the night, took Ibuprofen and Acetaminpohen and still ended up in a warm bath to calm to cramping enough to sleep. I don't think I've ever bled so much so quickly before.

[Luet]

I went to the mall with a friend and her twin 9yo daughters the other day. One of the girls was looking for some sneakers, so we went to Journeys Kidz. I immediately saw a pair that I loved but they had to order them in my size. I only own two pairs of winter shoes and two pairs of summer shoes (other than dress shoes), so it's rare for me to buy shoes. Here they are, I'm so excited about them coming in the mail.

[Rei]

Very fun!

[Gravity Defier]

Ever since Kirsten started asking about haircuts, I've been sorely tempted to chop mine off.

Well...that wasn't the best idea I've ever had.


I chopped mine off. As in, about 12 inches all gone. After two days of it, I have come to the conclusion that I look kind of silly, or at least not nearly as good as I do with those 12 inches there. Ah well. It'll grow back.

[Luet]

Aw, I hate when that happens! I hope you find a way to like it until it grows back. I'm in the phase where I want to grow mine out but I also want to get it cut a bit to make it look less shaggy while it's growing out.

[Jayelle]

Did you donate the 12 inches?

I'm kinda regretting my haircut (of 10 inches), but I think I just need to go shorter... and go to a salon that charges more then $15.

[mr_thebrain]

i wanna see pictures.

[Luet]

and go to a salon that charges more then $15.

This...for me. I'm willing to pay the money but I have no idea how to pick a stylist/salon. Maybe I should start looking at the hair of strangers and asking where they got it cut (if I like it).

[Gravity Defier]

Did you donate the 12 inches?

No.

Hair may be colored with vegetable dyes, rinses and semi-permanent dyes. It cannot be bleached, permanently colored or chemically treated.

Mine wasn't entirely bleached but I had bleached it and dyed it recently enough to figure they wouldn't take it. I'm going to feel kind of awful if the strands weren't enough for them to turn it down.



That is my hair still damp. To get a good idea of it dry, think Flock of Seagulls meets afro. Volume is so not the problem for me right now and best (read: worst) of all, I can't stick it in a ponytail as a means of controlling it; it falls right out of the tie.

[mr_thebrain]

aw c'mon, it looks cute.

you should try some anti-frizz spray, should help with it fro-ing out. works for my sister's hair, and it looks like you have very similar hair.

[Eaquae Legit]

I think it's cute! (Although I too have been the self-victim of an haircut.) It's a lot of work, but I bet finger waves would look adorable on you with that length!

[Rei]

It really does look cute. That said, yeah, it's probably a lot more work to keep it in line now (which is why I finally have my hair grown out after a lifetime of dealing with unruly short hair). And yes, if you had the time for it, I'm totally with Ali in that finger waves would look very good.

[Jayelle]

I think it looks cute too! But I can totally relate to the nice-when-damp, frizzy-when-dry. I have super thick hair and it does the same thing. Very annoying.

[neo-dragon]

Alea, you totally have the cute girl-next-door thing going on.

[Young Val]

I think it looks great, too!

I know so very well the trials and tribulations of bushy, frizzy, out of control hair. It's really only in the last few years I feel like I've been able to coax any sort of compliance out of my hair, and have eventually come to satisfactory compromises with it. But there are PLENTY of days my hair tells me to F off. (Today, for example. Ugh).

[Petra456]

I also think it's cute! Mine has been out of control lately, and I feel like no matter what I do there is always a ton of frizz.

Grrrrr

[Eaquae Legit]

I forgot: http://www.revampvintage.com/30sfingerwaves.html finger waves!

[zeldagirl1234]

as you get older do periods get better worse or stay the same?

[powerfulcheese04]

as you get older do periods get better worse or stay the same?

It really depends! For some women, they get better. For other women, they get worse.

Mine got progressively worse until I got on birth control. They've been not so bad since then.

[zeldagirl1234]

I see.

[steph]

It really can change a lot. Mine were pretty severe as a teenager and mellowed out as I aged into my mid-twenties. The 2 I've had since baby number 3 have been pretty darn bad again. If yours are seriously bad, I would talk to your parents and your doctor about trying out some low dose BC to see if it helps. For me, the only thing it did was put me on a 4 week cycle instead of a 5 week cycle. It didn't help with the intensity at all, so I stopped taking it. (Until I got married, that is.) But, it might be worth a try for you. Please talk to your parents about it before pursuing any such options, though. If they are only kind of bad, I would get some good drugs, a heating pad and stretch out well (curling up can make it worse) to help manage the pain.

[powerfulcheese04]

Also, a good recommendation to help decrease the intensity is to take an NSAID (so, ibuprofen, advil, etc... NOT tylenol) BEFORE you start to have cramps/pain/diarrhea. Those things are caused by your body releasing prostaglandins to make your uterus squeeze all the icky stuff out. So, taking an NSAID before the prostaglandin release inhibits the release and helps to keep the period side effects at a managable level.

[zeldagirl1234]

okay, thanks!! I actually tried Pamprin once and it worked well, I don't know if it was the pill or if it was just a coincidence.

[Olhado_]

*Enters sheepishly*

Though, perhaps you might enjoy this

Benefits of Being a Female

- We got off the Titanic first.

- We can scare (and confuse) male bosses with mysterious gynecological disorder excuses.

- Females can be groupies. Male groupies are stalkers.

- We can cry and get out of speeding fines. If a man cries to get out of a ticket, well, that's just weird.

- Our boyfriends/husbands clothes make us look gorgeous! You guys look strange in ours.

- Taxis stop for us. We always text the ID number of the driver to a friend in case we go missing, but, hey, they stop for us.

- Men die earlier, so we get to cash in on the life insurance.

- Free drinks. Free dinners. Free movies (you get the point).

- If we're not making enough money we can blame the glass ceiling.

- No fashion faux pas we make could ever rival the Speedo. The ones who should wear them don't and the ones who shouldn't always do. 'Nuff said.

- Our friends won't think we're weird if we ask whether there's spinach in our teeth.

- If we marry someone 20 years younger, we're aware of how it looks.

- We never have to wonder if our friends washed their hands after using the bathroom.

- We'll never regret piercing our ears.

- We'll never discover we've been duped by a Wonderbra.

*quickly leaves*