Relationships aren't *all* bad...

[anonshadow]

... just 95% bad.

Now, on a serious level--

I hope this doesn't offend anyone who's going through a terrible break up and makes them all sad and unhappy, but I feel sad that PWeb has no positive relationship thread!

I mean, some of us have to be in good relationships, right?

[wigginboy]

I can honestly say that my fiancee and I are having a totally amazing time with our relationship. I mean, hey, we're engaged arent we? We get nit-picky back and forth quite a lot, but thats only natural, and we always have fun wherever we go. We go to school together an have a great time when we see eachother. We hate her mum(who lives with us) equally much. And we so totally alike in all the right ways. Hell, our first names even rhyme. So ya, we are definitley doing alright and I cant wait till we are married(but thats still far off, we need to finish college yet).

[Young Val]

no offense taken. i look forward to posting in here some day.

[zeroguy]

I mean, some of us have to be in good relationships, right?

And some of us are just so beyond the breakup that thinking about the good memories doesn't hurt anymore.

I like this thread, because it reminded me to think of the better memories with my ex. Usually all I can remember is hurtful stuff, and things I did that make me cringe, etc.

Hmm, usually I can hardly believe some of the bad memories actually happened, but now I'm remembering some of the more incredulous good ones, too. There was one instance where I planned and executed (with help) a semi-complex way of asking her to some dance or something (non-public, but slightly sophisticated). I can still barely believe I did that; just thinking about it makes me very nervous. I was nervous then, too, but it went off very well, and the rest of that night was quite nice.

[Dr. Mobius]

He got me the sweetest birthday card for my birthday, too... it turns into this giant poster that says, "I love you, honey!"

Heh, those are cool. My sister got one of those for our mom for her birthday.

[daPyr0x]

Hey I used to have one of these....


okay, i guess, like kel, i look forward to having one again......in a long, long time.....when she comes begging me to take her back and i stupidly do or something like that....

[pooka]

I'm coming up on my 16th wedding anniversary this December. I think our key to staying real is that we never picked out a song. Maybe. Maybe my husband is an incredibly dedicated guy who puts up with a lot of craziness from me.

[primevere]

I have been with my fiance for a while now and all I can say is that it has been the greatest adventure of my life. We met a year before we got engaged but I feel as though I have known him all my life. Sure we live together and spend all our time together and some times argue about the little things, but I couldn't ask for anything better in my life.

[mr_thebrain]

my husband is an incredibly dedicated guy who puts up with a lot of craziness from me.

As much as I give him flak, my boyfriend is actually a really terrific, sweet guy. He deals remarkably well with my terrible hypersensitivity, and with my tendency to overreact to the most ridiculous things. He's also starting to figure out how to cope with my tendency to argue with things just to be contrary.

i sense the beginning of a trend.

My fiancee and i are doing very well, we argue now and then, but mostly about dumb things when she's being crazy and i'm not in a mood to tolerate it. but she's always crazy and i'm pretty used to dealing with crazy cuz all the women i know are crazy. so i put up with her craziness with ease usually.

anyway, when we do fight it's almost always cleared up by the next day. usually earlier than that.

we're exceptionally happy and even somewhat enjoying the whole marriage preperation deal.

[Jayelle]

It's so much easier to write about negative stuff then about positive, ya know? What is it about misery that makes it more interesting?


Paul (aka Caspian) and I have been married for just over 2 years now. There are so many little things I could list that I love about him, and about being married to him... but I won't go on and on.
I can say this, though. The glue of our relationship is laughter. We spend the majority of our time laughing together- even at the serious stuff. We've had alot of fights dissolve just because one of us says something so over-the-top that we both end up laughing.

The pweb connection:
When we were just friends, I made him read Ender's Game, just before we started dating he bought me Shadow of the Hegemon and left it in my dorm room secretly. After we started dating, he told me out of the blue one day: "Hey! Did you know they might make and Ender's Game movie?" to which I replied "Hah. What website did you find that on? Philoticweb.net?"
"yeah"
"Did you check out the forum?"
"no."
"well, check it out and while you're at it, check out the top ten posters. I'm one of them."

He did. And the rest is history.

[primevere]

In relationships I have noticed, the littlest things the other person does makes you fall inlove with them all over again. Take for example when I have a very s***** day my fiance would go out and buy me a small bag of my favorite candy. It is soo cute and how he creeps up behind me and may at times freak me out, always makes me smile.. God! I love him.

[VelvetElvis]

I have a habit of being sweet when I don't have to, and being a monster when someone is sweet to me. I'm sure there is a name for it.

[Jayelle]

psycho?

[Young Val]

psycho?

i kinda adore you, jan. you make me laugh when i haven't laughed in days.

[VelvetElvis]

psycho?

That's the one.

[Petra]

I'm late to class because my boyfriend was feeling cuddly and wouldn't let me out of bed. Somehow, I don't mind all that much.

[Petra]

Alright, all you happily-dating people. I have a challenge for you.

I've been dating Ryan for... two or three weeks now, depending on when you start the count. (Jeez, has it been that long?)

His 21st birthday is November 9th. Just long enough for me to be expected to get a good present, but not long enough for me to know what's good to get him. Help me think of something! Keeping in mind, of course, that he has much too much money for his own good and anything that he feels he wants, he usually already has bought for himself.

Some ideas: tickets to the Reel Big Fish concert on December 1 ('cause that's only three weeks after his birthday, so it isn't like I'm giving him tickets for March and assuming I'll still be around then), or a flask ('cause it's 21, for goodness sake, and we had a funny incident on the night we started dating that involved Halloween Horror Nights and a makeout session where he "pick-pocketed" my flask so we could get it past security).

Yes? No?

[powerfulcheese04]

Good luck. I've been with Mark for 2 years now and still never know what to get him for gift-giving occasions.

[anonshadow]

Ooooh, the gift-giving dilema. My sympathies.

How expensive are the Reel Big Fish tickets? The issue I see is the strangeness of spending a lot of money on someone you've been with for 2-3 weeks. That might come off as a little... something.

If they're not too expensive, I'd probably go with that, provided you don't see your relationship on the rocks.

Of course, the flask greatly appeals to my sense of humor.

So maybe go with that.

[Petra]

I hate being the one to have to establish the gift-giving status quo. Especially with a guy who's so hard to read.

Tickets are actually kinda pricey, $40 apiece. But I know that we're both going to end up going to this concert, because we love the band. And I think it's one of his top five bands. So it would be a good present, and I don't see our relationship ending so terribly within three weeks of his birthday that we wouldn't be able to still go to the concert.

But you're right. The flask appeals to my sense of humour, too.

I'll probably end up getting the tickets.

[Gravity Defier]

I'm quite proud of the gift I'll be giving my boyfriend for Christmas. It'll never happen again that I find it particularly easy or fitting, but I think once is good enough for me.

If you can afford it, I'd go with tickets.

[mr_thebrain]

tickets. cuz Reel Big Fish rock

[Jebus]

I went to a Reel Big Fish concert that lasted an hour with no encore, what a jip.

[mr_thebrain]

are you ever happy about anything jeebsy?

[zeroguy]

When Dobie posted?

And from a random guy's point of view, either of those presents seem fine. Personally, I'd go with the flask, but it doesn't matter.

[Young Val]

see, me? i'd go with the flask. i like gifts that mean something, even if they aren't flashy or expensive or even if i'll have to explain it to everyone but the recipient because no one else will get it.


my favorite gift from my ex, in the three years we dated, was not any of the expensive stuff he got me, tickets to things, or gift cards or whatever.

my favorite gift was a little pocket-sized notebook with a pen tied to it. that was just the size to put in my bag. because whenever we'd be out somewhere, i would inevitably get a story idea, and have nothing to write on, or nothing to write with.

it was the most meaningful, thoughtful gift i'd ever recieved. because he'd paid attention, noticed something about me, and gotten me something not only useful, but very perceptive and totally sweet. probably cost $5. but i loved it so much more than the $200 gift certificate he got me a year later.

[zeroguy]

That little anecdote reminded me.... I think the best gift I've received in a relationship was a water bottle. (As in, the sturdy kind; a Nalgene ripoff.) I'm not sure if that says something about thoughtful gifts (I drink a lot of water, and usually carry some container around with me all day), or just that I'm partial to liquid containers. But in any case, come on, a flask is cool.

[mr_thebrain]

one of the first birthday gifts i gave my fiancee was free but it's still one of her favorite gifts that i've given her. essentially i rerecorded the first song we ever danced to. it was an involved process of me playing each part seperately and then qeueing them to play at the same time. thank god for soundforge. anyway, i had my best friend (and bass player in my band) man the computer. it was one of our first attempts at overdubbing. there were three guitar parts, a bass part, a keyboard part and 2 vocal parts. too bad that at the time i didn't have access to a drumset. and the end result was shoddy in comparison to the type of work i produce today. she loved it though, which is all that matters.

its a little bit hard to top that gift. i don't like giving the same type of gift more than once. so i will probably never give her the gift of another song for her birthday or anything. though i did write a song to have played at our reception. (when that's ready i'll post a link to is so everyone can hear it)

[LilBee91]

Could you give him tickets and the flask? Both gifts seem awesome.

[Hegemon]

You said you are likely to be going to the concert anyways... so giving him the tickets as a gift seems like a null gift. Get him the flask which is something he will get to keep.

[anonshadow]

...

[locke]

I have a habit of being sweet when I don't have to, and being a monster when someone is sweet to me. I'm sure there is a name for it.

female.

[Young Val]

I have a habit of being sweet when I don't have to, and being a monster when someone is sweet to me. I'm sure there is a name for it.

female.

aw... adam, that's not very generous.

some of us only post our insanity on the internet, and use the Game Face for the actual interactions with guys.

[eriador]

I think I'll stay quiet on this...

Don't want to risk my neck.

[LilBee91]

he spent all day messaging my cell phone, too, with a lot of very sweet things...

[random] For some reason, I read that as "massaging my cell phone," and was rather confused....[/random]